Comments on: Who Should Pay for the Date? The Dreaded Dilemma Examined http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/ Personal Finance Blog for Young Professionals Thu, 24 May 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Locutus http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55061 Locutus Sat, 31 Mar 2012 16:40:42 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55061 Marilyn, You just can't be figured out. The only conclusion I can come to is that you're a whorish girl who always sleeps with guys on the first or second date and you feel like they should cover the whole bill and you return the favor with sex. Wow, I'm sure you are making a lot of women disgusted right now. Dekers is already offended and I don't blame her. When I go on a date with a women I have ZERO expecation for sex. In fact, if i like her I'd rather put sex off for a while because it confuses things. Apparently, you go out with low life guys who are only interested in banging you and obviously, you the same. This is a discussion about typical regular people, not gutter trash as you are describing. Maybe that's why your ideas are so drastically different from others on here. Marilyn,
You just can’t be figured out. The only conclusion I can come to is that you’re a whorish girl who always sleeps with guys on the first or second date and you feel like they should cover the whole bill and you return the favor with sex. Wow, I’m sure you are making a lot of women disgusted right now. Dekers is already offended and I don’t blame her. When I go on a date with a women I have ZERO expecation for sex. In fact, if i like her I’d rather put sex off for a while because it confuses things. Apparently, you go out with low life guys who are only interested in banging you and obviously, you the same. This is a discussion about typical regular people, not gutter trash as you are describing. Maybe that’s why your ideas are so drastically different from others on here.

]]> By: Marilyn http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55060 Marilyn Sat, 31 Mar 2012 16:05:51 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55060 What about a man doing what it takes to make the woman he supposedly loves happy. If a woman is working and the couple are married, it would be foolhardy for the lady not to be a part of the financial picture. A woman not wanting a cheapskate for a mate is always called a "gold-digger." There is nothing wrong for a woman to want to be treated with respect. There are too many men who expect a woman to put out for easy sex and then to birth those babies after marriage all the while being expected to pay as if she is nothing more than a mere roomie. What about a man doing what it takes to make the woman he supposedly loves happy. If a woman is working and the couple are married, it would be foolhardy for the lady not to be a part of the financial picture. A woman not wanting a cheapskate for a mate is always called a “gold-digger.” There is nothing wrong for a woman to want to be treated with respect. There are too many men who expect a woman to put out for easy sex and then to birth those babies after marriage all the while being expected to pay as if she is nothing more than a mere roomie.

]]> By: Magi Moo http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55044 Magi Moo Sat, 31 Mar 2012 04:53:43 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55044 Dekker451, it shocks me because I believe that a man should be a gentleman despite of being taken advantage of in the past. I am a good girl so it sucks that I have to pay the price for all the women out there with no class. I deserve to be treated well because I am a real and sincere person. And I make a great friend even if the date doesn't result in more down the road. Dekker451, it shocks me because I believe that a man should be a gentleman despite of being taken advantage of in the past. I am a good girl so it sucks that I have to pay the price for all the women out there with no class. I deserve to be treated well because I am a real and sincere person. And I make a great friend even if the date doesn’t result in more down the road.

]]> By: Dekker451 http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55042 Dekker451 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 04:34:28 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55042 "if he’s a truly nice guy he won’t judge right?" That's pretty much it. If he's the kind of person to look down on you based on your income then he's not worth your time and it's better to find that out sooner rather than later. “if he’s a truly nice guy he won’t judge right?”

That’s pretty much it. If he’s the kind of person to look down on you based on your income then he’s not worth your time and it’s better to find that out sooner rather than later.

]]> By: Dekker451 http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55041 Dekker451 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 04:31:32 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55041 MagiMoo, you've been saying the same thing from the perspective of someone who is receiving the monetary benefits. Why does it shock you to hear it from the opposite perspective? MagiMoo, you’ve been saying the same thing from the perspective of someone who is receiving the monetary benefits. Why does it shock you to hear it from the opposite perspective?

]]> By: Dekker451 http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55039 Dekker451 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 04:19:56 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55039 Ad hominem argument. You're dismissing his arguments based on an assumption about his dating history instead of directly rebutting them. Ad hominem argument. You’re dismissing his arguments based on an assumption about his dating history instead of directly rebutting them.

]]> By: Dekker451 http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55038 Dekker451 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 04:18:26 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55038 Well no, it's demonstrably not human nature but yes, obviously traditions tend to stay the same. That's why they're called traditions. Is that enough? Aren't we're supposed to be smarter than that? Doing things because they are fair, just, right and/or make sense and not simply because they've been done that way for a long time? Well no, it’s demonstrably not human nature but yes, obviously traditions tend to stay the same. That’s why they’re called traditions. Is that enough? Aren’t we’re supposed to be smarter than that? Doing things because they are fair, just, right and/or make sense and not simply because they’ve been done that way for a long time?

]]> By: Dekker451 http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55037 Dekker451 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 04:13:18 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55037 "..to say that you will never pay for a woman will eliminate your chances of meeting a quality woman." Why? This seems to imply that a woman who pays her own way isn't a quality woman. “..to say that you will never pay for a woman will eliminate your chances of meeting a quality woman.”

Why? This seems to imply that a woman who pays her own way isn’t a quality woman.

]]> By: Dekker451 http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55036 Dekker451 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 03:59:48 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55036 So men should just shut up and be grateful that a woman is giving them a chance to "get in her pants"? I hope that not what you're really saying, because there are some major problems with it. First of all, it reduces women to sexual objects. Secondly, it's predicated on the myth that the only thing any man wants from a woman is sex. Thirdly, it implies that the proper way for a man to obtain sexual favors from a woman is by spending money on her, which places the relationship squarely on the footing of that between a prostitute and a customer. That's fine if that's what you're looking for, but to frame dating in general that way is just ridiculous. So men should just shut up and be grateful that a woman is giving them a chance to “get in her pants”? I hope that not what you’re really saying, because there are some major problems with it. First of all, it reduces women to sexual objects. Secondly, it’s predicated on the myth that the only thing any man wants from a woman is sex. Thirdly, it implies that the proper way for a man to obtain sexual favors from a woman is by spending money on her, which places the relationship squarely on the footing of that between a prostitute and a customer. That’s fine if that’s what you’re looking for, but to frame dating in general that way is just ridiculous.

]]> By: Dekker451 http://20somethingfinance.com/who-should-pay-for-the-date-the-dreaded-dilemma-examined/comment-page-2/#comment-55033 Dekker451 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 03:49:54 +0000 http://20somethingfinance.com/?p=337#comment-55033 "I think whoever invites should pay. If a guy invited me on a date, I would expect him to pay for everything. I would probably offer, to be polite, but I would be very upset if he took me up on the offer, would consider him cheap, and would never see him again." You seem to say that as though it's a reasonable, mature approach or even a foregone conclusion, but it seems like a mind game to me. “I think whoever invites should pay. If a guy invited me on a date, I would expect him to pay for everything. I would probably offer, to be polite, but I would be very upset if he took me up on the offer, would consider him cheap, and would never see him again.”

You seem to say that as though it’s a reasonable, mature approach or even a foregone conclusion, but it seems like a mind game to me.

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